By far, the clearest evidence of God's grace in my life is the fact that He saw fit to bless me with the wife that He did. When God looked at Adam in Genesis 2:18 He said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." All men everywhere should answer with a hearty "AMEN" to this verse.
Tami has been and is my closest friend, greatest support, amazing wife and also an incredible helper to me. One of the things that I love in Tami is how she knows just how to speak into my life. Whether it be encouragement or to challenge me and tell me to "man up", God gives her the the discernment to know how and when to speak into my life.
We had a conversation recently where she very lovingly and respectfully told me that I need to do a better job at following through with things I commit to. My brain goes a mile a minute and I'm tend to say "yes" to and commit to more things than I can remember to do. It is not the first time I have been told this, but there is something different about hearing it from her. God spoke through her and challenged me in that moment.
What I appreciate about Tami is HOW she goes about helping me with this stuff:
1. Her goal is to help me become a better Christian, husband, father and pastor
2. Her tone is always sincere and respectful (1 Peter 3:1-2)
3. Her timing tends to be God's timing
Because of this approach Tami helps me in these areas. I feel increasingly blessed when I'm out and about and observe the wives other men have. In defense of the wives, I firmly believe that there are a lot of disengaged and deadbeat husbands and also on the other end of the spectrum there are domineering and disrespectful husbands in our culture and in our churches. Unfortunately, this causes many wives to react in one of three ways:
1. They say nothing to their husbands about anything because they do not think their husbands listen, probably because they often do not (which is wrong and is not loving on behalf of us as husbands)
2. They say nothing to their husbands about anything because their husbands are so domineering they are not given a voice (which is also wrong and sin on behalf of us as husbands)
3. They say things in a way that comes off as disrespectful or nagging (which is wrong because God has called on wives to be respectful and to help their husbands be more like Jesus)
What I appreciate about Tami and where I see evidence of God's grace in her life is that if I'm being an idiot, as my helper she finds a way to help me see that without being nagging or disrespectful. This is no small task and I've had a front row seat in watching God work this transformation in her life more and more. Because of this God has continued to grow me through her in so many ways.
In short, thank you God for giving me an amazing wife and thank you Tam for obeying God and helping me be more like Him!